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I deliberately slipped to responding without reading the rest of the post or replies but your girlfriend had the wrong God values my friend. God values are anything you out on a pedestal and sweet Jesus they are dangerous for women and men. If you couldn't explain you're way out of it and you didn't have kids then you dodged a bullet my friend. I promise you.
 
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This.
You knew she didn't want you doing something (as stupid as the 'something' is) and you did it anyways and hid it from her. That's when it should have been over. As stupid as the issue was, that's how she feels. If your SO doesn't want you to go to the strip club or do meth, and you decide 'fuck it, Im going to go to the strip club high on meth' all the time for seven months and don't tell her, how much did you really care?

At this point, you're more upset that you got caught and look like an ass for taking her for granted. I've been there, it sucks. But you learn.

Take advantage of this opportunity, just be a whore and date around for a while (safely) and meet a wide variety of people. College is the last time in your life where you will be in an area so densely populated with people your own age that dating - and hooking up - is stupid easy. You'll learn a lot about yourself and what kind of person you really want to be with when the time comes.
I agree with ALL of this.

God knows i have put my wife through HELL the last few years. But the only thing that has kept our marriage working is pure honesty. I’ve never hid anything from her. When I do things that she doesn’t necessarily support or gets mad over, I NEVER HIDE IT. Once the trust is gone you have nothing.

And DUDE YOUR IN COLLEGE AND THE PRIME OF YOUR LIFE! WHORE IT UP! Worry about serious relationships when your old! If you find that special someone it won’t be work and you won’t have to hide things.


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I agree with ALL of this.

God knows i have put my wife through HELL the last few years. But the only thing that has kept our marriage working is pure honesty. I’ve never hid anything from her. When I do things that she doesn’t necessarily support or gets mad over, I NEVER HIDE IT. Once the trust is gone you have nothing.
Worry about serious relationships when your old! If you find that special someone it won’t be work and you won’t have to hide things.


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And DUDE YOUR IN COLLEGE AND THE PRIME OF YOUR LIFE! WHORE IT UP!


Wow....so this is the best advice that can be given to prepare young adults for their future endeavors....I'm always amazed at advice being given on Cigar Forums and then when the advice fails to make a better Society then the finger pointing begins as to how things are so screwed up.
 
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Wow....so this is the best advice that can be given to prepare young adults for their future endeavors....I'm always amazed at advice being given on Cigar Forums and then when the advice fails to make a better Society then the finger pointing begins as to how things are so screwed up.
. I waited til she was at work and went through her clothes closet...took a razor blade and made cuts in every article of clothing where she wouldn't see it until she was actually wearing it ( that had to be funny )...took her high-heel shoes and sawed them half way through...took a roll-on tube of mentholatum and itching powder and put it in her neatly folded panties... and checked out of that 25 year marriage. "War of the Roses" movie took a back seat to my experience.... and I took the dog, too.... that miserable she devil!
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If you find that special someone it won’t be work
I disagree with this. I think it’s the biggest misconception about love that there is.

The reality is that we are all selfish people. Loving others, which is to fight our selfish nature, is alwaysgoing to take work. It’s worth it, but it will take work.
 
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And DUDE YOUR IN COLLEGE AND THE PRIME OF YOUR LIFE! WHORE IT UP!

Wow....so this is the best advice that can be given to prepare young adults for their future endeavors....I'm always amazed at advice being given on Cigar Forums and then when the advice fails to make a better Society then the finger pointing begins as to how things are so screwed up.
Pretty sure partying & getting laid have been a sociably acceptable part of college life for some time now!!! Sorry but gotta disagree with you on this one brother. No disrespect, just difference in opinion.
 
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And DUDE YOUR IN COLLEGE AND THE PRIME OF YOUR LIFE! WHORE IT UP!


Wow....so this is the best advice that can be given to prepare young adults for their future endeavors....I'm always amazed at advice being given on Cigar Forums and then when the advice fails to make a better Society then the finger pointing begins as to how things are so screwed up.
I gave him solid advice. If you wanna pick it apart and blame me for liberal America self destructing than you my friend are beyond lost.


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Look kid. If you have to hide your activities and vices from your parents or significant other.. maybe it's time to reevaluate some stuff. I mean, if you want to smoke cigars like a man, don't hide it, and you should figure out where/how to buy your own.. if you want to keep everyone around you happy, then maybe you shouldn't smoke. Simple, yeah?
With age comes the wisdom to draw such lines, and grow beyond the constraints of what appears to be a severely sheltered life. The world is vast, and cruel. Shit doesn't always seem fair or make sense.. but perseverance and common sense pays off in the long run. I wish you the best, but you're at a point where you need to grow up. Get off your parents jock, and take life by the horns. Losing a chick at your age is nothing. Losing her because she 'doesn't do tobacco' is honestly, just kinda funny.. if you're half as fly as you think you are, you'll be back in the sack in no time. Get out there and be a freakin' man!

(Not intended to be rude, just blunt, don't break out the banhammer)
 
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Look kid. If you have to hide your activities and vices from your parents or significant other.. maybe it's time to reevaluate some stuff. I mean, if you want to smoke cigars like a man, don't hide it, and you should figure out where/how to buy your own.. if you want to keep everyone around you happy, then maybe you shouldn't smoke. Simple, yeah?
With age comes the wisdom to draw such lines, and grow beyond the constraints of what appears to be a severely sheltered life. The world is vast, and cruel. Shit doesn't always seem fair or make sense.. but perseverance and common sense pays off in the long run. I wish you the best, but you're at a point where you need to grow up. Get off your parents jock, and take life by the horns. Losing a chick at your age is nothing. Losing her because she 'doesn't do tobacco' is honestly, just kinda funny.. if you're half as fly as you think you are, you'll be back in the sack in no time. Get out there and be a freakin' man!

(Not intended to be rude, just blunt, don't break out the banhammer)
Well said Dad


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Look kid. If you have to hide your activities and vices from your parents or significant other.. maybe it's time to reevaluate some stuff. I mean, if you want to smoke cigars like a man, don't hide it, and you should figure out where/how to buy your own.. if you want to keep everyone around you happy, then maybe you shouldn't smoke. Simple, yeah?
With age comes the wisdom to draw such lines, and grow beyond the constraints of what appears to be a severely sheltered life. The world is vast, and cruel. Shit doesn't always seem fair or make sense.. but perseverance and common sense pays off in the long run. I wish you the best, but you're at a point where you need to grow up. Get off your parents jock, and take life by the horns. Losing a chick at your age is nothing. Losing her because she 'doesn't do tobacco' is honestly, just kinda funny.. if you're half as fly as you think you are, you'll be back in the sack in no time. Get out there and be a freakin' man!

(Not intended to be rude, just blunt, don't break out the banhammer)
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