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what to do when your wife buys cigars
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All I know is my ex bought me some "nice" sosa cigars from disney for christmas last year and she put a lot of time into them knowing that I loved cigars as much as her and in the end it was the thought that counted. I kept them front and center in the humi so she knew that I loved them. Its all about the thought.
In the end I ended up pitching them (we didn't work out) and I had no problem doing it
BUT they where still some of my most sentimental and cherished smokes at the time, its a nice gesture.
In the end I ended up pitching them (we didn't work out) and I had no problem doing it
BUT they where still some of my most sentimental and cherished smokes at the time, its a nice gesture.
Free cigars.
I'd smoke em. Who cares what they are.
I'd smoke em. Who cares what they are.
Here is my response to this thread that blew up. One I dont hate all gurhkas I just know there are better sticks that I could have for 10 dollars a stick she spent. 2 I love her for trying but I wish she would have gone to any b&m she got these on some deals site so who knows how they were stored or what. 3 these and enought to fill a box are going to the soliders. 4 im going to lie my ass off and tell her i love them and when I smoke a good stick I will tell her its one she got me. If all else fails I will take brits advice and hit her.
Jfire
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I'd smoke them if they were from my wife. Or at least give them a shot. Not sure how long you've been smoking, but my wife knows I love most regular Tats and knows four or five of the CCs I smoke. Let your wife in on cigar convo with you! It will help with future gifts!
Thats one of the sad parts, she can name all my regular smokes cause I talk about them alot. Iam thankful she tried so I might save one or two but I havent sent any sticks to the troops before so iam happy about that, I have some mild bundles of upmans that I moved on to different profiles so I wont smoke them and I dont have anyone around that smokes so they would go to waste saving. Now I just need to look up where to send the sticks to.
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Be a man for god's sake!! Thank her and try to steer her in the right direction so you're both not wasting your time. But most of all be honest. Or better yet tell her if she wants to please you she can *fill in the blank with whatever you want her to do more often* and leave the cigar buying to you.
If you're really against smoking them or keeping them for guests (LOVE the term mooch-idor, by the way) and you don't mind a small white lie, then go buy some sticks that you do like to smoke and that appear similar to the cigars your wife gave you and donate the Gurkhas to CfW. That's just another option. Personally, it's not an option I would take because it involves lying to my wife and I want to encourage her to continue to support my hobby.
I'm in the "thank her profusely and keep them" camp - if nothing else, they'll probably be fantastic yard-gars for you in the Spring.
I'm in the "thank her profusely and keep them" camp - if nothing else, they'll probably be fantastic yard-gars for you in the Spring.
I can see how the replies could be interpreted that way but showing appreciation and gratitude isn't the same as asking permission to take my balls out. There are now 364 shopping days until next Christmas, so there are plenty of ways between now and then to let her know that the OP would prefer a different cigar in a way that keeps her supportive.
I guess all of our relationships are different, but from day one over 20+ years ago, if I didn't like something I told her. I don't like wasting money and she does the same for me. I see no point in fawning over something I don't want or like. To me that is lying from the get go.
Shit...you should be happy that she's buying cigars period! My wife mentioned yesterday that I shouldn't buy any cigars for the whole of 2014!
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I agree it is cool that your wife buys you cigars it shows that she is trying to get you something you appreciate. Now to coach her on how to spend her efforts in the right way.
Same as if you were trying to buy her something foo foo, hell we don't know how to buy that!
Here is the thing to do, fawn over her effort and her intent, not necessarily the end result.... Maybe next year give her a list of brands NOT to buy, or websites or B&M's not to go to.. Better yet tell her the ONLY B&M to go to and tell them to only let her buy certain things..... There you go I like that idea!!! lol
Same as if you were trying to buy her something foo foo, hell we don't know how to buy that!
Here is the thing to do, fawn over her effort and her intent, not necessarily the end result.... Maybe next year give her a list of brands NOT to buy, or websites or B&M's not to go to.. Better yet tell her the ONLY B&M to go to and tell them to only let her buy certain things..... There you go I like that idea!!! lol