I've been in the same spot... its a matter of being open about it and meeting her half way... don't smoke all the time, don't be a jerk about it, don't let it consume you.... treat it like a hobby and treat her like your wife.
Hi Everyone, as mentioned in my introduction post, BOTL needs quite a bit of updating, patching and whatever else I might come across. Over the next few weekends BOTL may be unreachable on occasion as I do migrations or updates, etc. Just be patient - we'll be back! I'll generally try to keep these maintenances until later in the evenings.