I have a very long time friend that I lost touch with for the most part of 15 years. Back toward our high school days, we were best friends. Swim team together, spent weekends watching M-TV all night when they actually showed music videos. Went on double dates, cruised the mall. We were like close brothers. Of course being in the 80's, we dabbled in pot and beer, having a great time doing so.
Then came harder drugs of many types later on in our friendship. We both became drug addicts. I realized I needed help and sought help to get clean. I got that help and surrendered to my addiction, struggling being his Friend knowing he was still using drugs. I tried doing the same for my friend, offering help of any kind once I got more clean time. I have been clean since early 1990 having never turned back to drugs. He has been thru rehab after rehab, half way houses, lived with recovering addicts etc. He even spent some time in jail. All due to his continuing drug addiction. Nothing has worked for him to stay clean. He was in my wedding in 1994 as a groomsman. Since my wedding in 1994, I have lost touch with him almost completely. Only getting a few letters from his jail and occasionally he would call my Fathers house and ask for me.
So yesterday out of the blue, he calls my house saying he is getting married and wants me to be his Best Man. I really am mixed about this. I hardly know him as a man and not spoken to him in over 12 years. He is getting married on St. Patrick's Day, less than 2 months away. He says he goes to meetings now and even attends church bible study. I say that's great. I ask a simple question: When was the last time you used drugs? I was surprised to hear him say he was getting high only 2 months ago. He was a compulsive liar and I would not be surprised if he was still using today.
So what would you do with his request to be his Best Man?
Then came harder drugs of many types later on in our friendship. We both became drug addicts. I realized I needed help and sought help to get clean. I got that help and surrendered to my addiction, struggling being his Friend knowing he was still using drugs. I tried doing the same for my friend, offering help of any kind once I got more clean time. I have been clean since early 1990 having never turned back to drugs. He has been thru rehab after rehab, half way houses, lived with recovering addicts etc. He even spent some time in jail. All due to his continuing drug addiction. Nothing has worked for him to stay clean. He was in my wedding in 1994 as a groomsman. Since my wedding in 1994, I have lost touch with him almost completely. Only getting a few letters from his jail and occasionally he would call my Fathers house and ask for me.
So yesterday out of the blue, he calls my house saying he is getting married and wants me to be his Best Man. I really am mixed about this. I hardly know him as a man and not spoken to him in over 12 years. He is getting married on St. Patrick's Day, less than 2 months away. He says he goes to meetings now and even attends church bible study. I say that's great. I ask a simple question: When was the last time you used drugs? I was surprised to hear him say he was getting high only 2 months ago. He was a compulsive liar and I would not be surprised if he was still using today.
So what would you do with his request to be his Best Man?