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My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me because of cigars

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Im sorry you got dumped. It sucks. A couple things to ponder.
Were you really the perfect couple if you had to hide cigars from her?
Might you be happier in the long run if you found someone who you could be yourself around?
I am sad for the hurt, for it does hurt. I do not want to diminish that. I will keep you in my prayers for the hurt.

Thanks guys kinda just feel like 3 years of my life is wasted now. She’s never done any tobacco and maybe if I could get her try a nice light cigar she would understand. Other then hiding cigars she was pretty much perfect for me.
Still trying to justify yourself, but denying that YOU HID IT FROM HER shows it wasn't perfect. You lied to her about who you are. And then, even though you knew about that she disliked such, you hid it from her. To try and believe/think that "if she'd just try a cigar, she'd understand" is naïve. If she is a tobacco Nazi, there is nothing you can do about it. There is no way to convince her.

If you had to hide the cigars from her, it wasn’t the cigars.
If she broke up with you because of cigars, it wasn’t the cigars.
In case I’m not being clear here, it wasn’t the cigars.
There is probably some truth here, maybe a lot of truth. Just realize that there is one out there for you which would fit better, trust me in this.

Peace of the Lord be with you.
 

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Just realize that there is one out there for you which would fit better, trust me in this.
RevSmoke may be right, but also realize you need to take steps to be the kind of man that better woman out there wants and deserves, or that better woman is also going to leave you. Or you’ll bring her down until she is no longer better.
 
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Dude just Thank the Good Lord above for getting rid of that chick for you. Don’t change yourself for any woman. Love is unconditional and if the chick don’t love you for who you are then you don’t need them. Hell im still waiting on my wife to leave who hates my cigars. But when she met me I smoked 2 pack of cigarettes a day but yet she hates the 1 cigar MAYBE a week that I smoke. Bye. Once I hit 40 (be 47 this month) I’m not kissing ass anymore. The sooner you learn that the better. Hope and pray you find a chick that loves you for you.
 
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OMG the fortune cookie philosophy.... He hid it from her so it's his fault. Just stop. Every single person ever has hid things from their significant other. From things totally benign to things straight up evil. He hid some cigars, big deal. If she was so quick to throw away three years she was looking for a reason. No talking it over? No, am I that bad that you felt you had to go behind my back? Sounds like your typical SJW snowflake crusader. Forget the big picture, forget mitigating factors, forget three years of love, forget her own fault for helping to create an atmosphere where the guy had to hide to enjoy himself for an hour. Bye bye three year relationship over cigars? The word zealot comes to mind. Dude you are so much better off, you just need time and a new perspective to see it. Yeah it sucks, yeah it hurts. But from it you'll hopefully grow. Now you know that if there is some aspect of yourself you have to hide you're not in the right relationship. You're suddenly single after three years, when you think of her now all the good things you remember you've magnified three times over because right now you don't know any better and all the bad things about her you've minimized and rationalized away. Get back out there as soon as you can. Meet some new girl even for a brief fling and your perspective will shift significantly. I have one original Tatuaje Mexican Experiment left that I'm lighting up tonight because of the new release. When I light it I'll toast you and ask the universe to throw a blonde bombshell your way to get you started on that new perspective;-) Cheers!
 
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OMG the fortune cookie philosophy.... He hid it from her so it's his fault. Just stop. Every single person ever has hid things from their significant other. From things totally benign to things straight up evil. He hid some cigars, big deal. If she was so quick to throw away three years she was looking for a reason. No talking it over? No, am I that bad that you felt you had to go behind my back? Sounds like your typical SJW snowflake crusader. Forget the big picture, forget mitigating factors, forget three years of love, forget her own fault for helping to create an atmosphere where the guy had to hide to enjoy himself for an hour. Bye bye three year relationship over cigars? The word zealot comes to mind. Dude you are so much better off, you just need time and a new perspective to see it. Yeah it sucks, yeah it hurts. But from it you'll hopefully grow. Now you know that if there is some aspect of yourself you have to hide you're not in the right relationship. You're suddenly single after three years, when you think of her now all the good things you remember you've magnified three times over because right now you don't know any better and all the bad things about her you've minimized and rationalized away. Get back out there as soon as you can. Meet some new girl even for a brief fling and your perspective will shift significantly. I have one original Tatuaje Mexican Experiment left that I'm lighting up tonight because of the new release. When I light it I'll toast you and ask the universe to throw a blonde bombshell your way to get you started on that new perspective;-) Cheers!
Thank you very much I appreciate it, I am enjoying single life and have met a hot blonde at work that seems interested so we see. I’ll keep you guys updated
 

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F'n A bubba...been there done that! My ex waited til I was on a business trip and smashed 4 beautiful wood humis ( 300 count sized ... 2 were filled with CC's... the other NC's )... took a pair of scissors and cut them all up... threw my cutters and lighters into the woods and served me with papers and a restraining order.

( Probably why she took out the restraining order ) Not to be outdone... I waited til she was at work and went through her clothes closet...took a razor blade and made cuts in every article of clothing where she wouldn't see it until she was actually wearing it ( that had to be funny )...took her high-heel shoes and sawed them half way through...took a roll-on tube of mentholatum and itching powder and put it in her neatly folded panties... and checked out of that 25 year marriage. "War of the Roses" movie took a back seat to my experience.... and I took the dog, too.... that miserable she devil!
#savagelyfe!

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Thank you very much I appreciate it, I am enjoying single life and have met a hot blonde at work that seems interested so we see. I’ll keep you guys updated
Great to hear about that,

However, I do not consider relationship is where we come to remove the others' things they had in their life.
So, if you are a smoker, she can be right in telling you "Please wash before you kiss me if you had a puff". But not to judge based on the relaxation we have with Cigars.

Enjoy your time, and do not waste your time with someone who will make you feel faaaaar from being you!

Cheers!
 
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Thank you very much I appreciate it, I am enjoying single life and have met a hot blonde at work that seems interested so we see. I’ll keep you guys updated
Holy crap it worked?! BEHOLD! Witness the power of the Tatuaje Mexican Experiment OR! Figures that was my last OR I need another for me! I could use a hot blonde in my life too! Good for you. You sound like you managed to deal with the break up quite well! Now get into the game and bag that blonde! Or atleast lie to me so I can live vicariously through you! :woot:
 
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Dude, sorry about what you just went through... Breakups are always painful no matter the situation. But hey, you got yourself another one quick... time to buy a box of nice CC and store it away... for three years. This time it will be worth it. Cheers brother.
 
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yes you read that right. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me today. So she is very anti tobacco and treats cigars like cigarettes which we all know how different they are on here. She always said she wouldn’t kiss me if I smoked and today she found my stash in my room and totally went off. She was like I told you to never smoke and what are these and how long have you been smoking and I said about 7 months and she was like well you should have told me when you started and not hid them from me. Then broke up me. We were the perfect couple.
Did you have your stash hidden with your porno mags?
If so... maybe it wasn't the cigars.
 
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